After my last bleeding 3 weeks ago, I have been extremely careful with myself: no heavy lifting, no long-time standing, no large-scale housework, and be cautious of any pain inside my tommy. I also checked myself more frequently for any blood-tinged drop or clots.
Everything seems fine until yesterday afternoon….
I went to the bathroom, just thinking how good it is that I had no bleeding for 3 weeks. Suddenly, I saw something pink on the toilet paper. Quickly I checked myself again with another piece of toilet paper. This time I saw one dark red blood-tinged clot.
THIS IS NOT GOOD!!
I immediately went out of the bathroom and lay down on the bed, praying to the God to help stop any bleeding. Because it was really not good time to go to the emergence room: it was December 26, right after Christmas. A lot of places are not open yet. It started to snow from noon and the snow became bigger and bigger. And the worst was: M is not at home, and driving on the snow is definitely not easy…
All I could do was lying on the bed and praying to God to stop any bleeding.
After lying on the bed for 45 minuets, I went to the bathroom, curious to see whether I had any more bleeding. Thanks God! No more bleeding!!
I was not sure what caused the bleeding this time, but I am sure no bleeding in pregnancy is a good thing, especially during the second and third trimester. Therefore, I need to be careful and protect myself, for the safety of my own and my unborn baby!
At this early stage of my baby development, I don’t want make our communication too complicated. With this idea in my mind, I created a simple song for my baby:
Baby and mommy, mommy and baby;
Baby is mommy’s baby, mommy is baby’s mommy;
Baby kisses mommy, mommy kisses baby;
Baby loves mommy, mommy loves baby.
It sounds very simple, but I think it is good to my baby at this stage, since my baby is only at the 4th month of gestation and his/her ears just began to form and develop.
Although this song is simple, it reveals enough information to the baby:
1. the relationship between me and the baby;
2. my emotions towards the baby;
Meanwhile, simple song is easier to me to remember and repeat. I can also change the order of the lines at my will.
Besides, since the wording of the song is so simple, I can sing or talk it to my baby via the second language.
Baby’s daddy, M, laughed at this song when he heard me singing to the baby. He thought it was too simple, and a little bit silly. He created a more complicated song, but forgot the wording the second time when he wanted to repeat it.
This week is my 15th week gestation, the fourth month. As the baby’s head has grown, the ears have moved to their proper places on the sides of the head. The eardrums and the bones of the middle ear are formed.
This means soon my baby will begin to hear and react to the noisy world of my uterus. Of course, the most noise the baby can hear is the rumbling of my stomach, the whoosh of blood through my blood vessels, and the beating of my heart.
This also means it is the right time to start to practice prenatal/fetal education to my baby. According to what I learned about prenatal/fetal education, human personality starts to develop before birth and is directly influenced by the mother’s experiences. Mother’s nutrition and physical well-being, as well as her mood, thoughts, speech and actions, were held to influence the physical, intellectual and moral character of the future child.
Some researchers in the field believe a proper prenatal stimulation might produce, in a sense, a “super-baby”.
However, that is not to say that I am going to make the womb a classroom. In my opinion, the essence of prenatal/fetal education is not to teach facts or impart information, but to make contact with the baby, a head start on the long process of parent-baby bonding, with the mother’s positive experience (mood, thoughts, speech and actions).
The key purpose is to show him/her parents’ positive emotions: unconditional love, deep appreciation, warm welcome and etc.
Therefore, beginning this week, I decide to do the following things for my baby:
1. Strive for tranquility; establish the security and support I need to cultivate the peace of mind. Try to stay away from people and things that make me anxious, angry, depressed, or sad. Try to keep a positive attitude and mindset.
2. Listen to simple, soothing and beautiful music once a day. The music is neither loud nor noisy, and I only listen to it no more than 20 minuets each time.
3. Name my baby a nickname and have loving conversations with my baby. Every day when I get up, brush my teeth, have the breakfast/lunch/supper, or begin to work, I call my baby by this nickname and tell him/her what I am doing.
And I also encourage baby’s daddy to do the same, although his conversation is much simpler. Like “hi, baby, daddy is going to go to work now. Poor daddy…”, or “hi, baby, daddy is back. How are you today?”
Once it was like this: “hi, baby, be good, be happy, be daddy’s baby. We let momy eat leftovers.” (and was stopped by me immediately!)
Every so often, I lay my hand on the stomach, rub my tummy gently and talk to my baby. I tell my baby all the good wishes I have for him/her, how happy and eager I am to bring him/her into the world.
Life becomes a little busier even before the baby is born! But I enjoy it a lot!
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